Success is more than economic gains. It is not about money nor is it about fame. Consider an ancient fable about a king that he turned to gold all that he touched and starved to death.
Or consider “The Sick Man Of The East,” he has much wealth and universal fame, but he is so afraid and is never a moment alone.
He will never taste a dish unless it has been already tried. And if sitting across from his friend, he will jump to his feet with a gun in hand if a friend makes a sudden move.
The success he does not have, but power and money he does. But what a way to live! Success should be enjoyed and not a curse.
Success is about mapping out all the aspects of your life. Similar to a map when embarking on a journey, you need to define the following details: origin, destination, vehicle, backpack, landmarks, and route.
#1 Who Are You
This is your starting point. Your origin is who you are right now. Most people, when asked to introduce themselves would say, “Hi, I’m Mark and I am a 50-year old, husband, father of 3, self-employed businessman. Not a real detailed description of who I am.
For people to gain insights about themselves, look closely at your beliefs, values, and principles aside from your economic, professional, cultural, and civil status.
Moreover, your experiences will give you insights on your good and not-so-good traits, skills, knowledge, strengths, and weaknesses.
Now upon introspection, I can state that I am highly motivated, believe we all have a divine purpose on this earth, generous, and service-oriented. I can be impatient and stubborn at times.
#2 Destination: A Vision Of Who You Want To Be
So, I ask you, Who do you want to be? This is your vision. Of course, before you can answer that question, Know Thyself. Knowing this gives you a clearer idea of who you want to be; and the things you want to change whether they are attitudes, habits, or points of view.
Adam Smith wrote in The Money Game, “The first thing you have to know is yourself. A man who knows himself can step outside himself and watch his own reactions like an observer.”
If you hardly know yourself, then the visions and targets for your future will also be unclear. Your destination should cover all the aspects of your being: the physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.
#3 Vehicle: Your Mission
To reach your destination let us employ adequate vehicles. How will you reach your mission in life? your goals? your vocation? Do you know enough about yourself to answers those questions? Remember, “know thyself!”
In my opinion, self-assessment is the key, the vehicle. There are many assessment tools on the market, but to get a better sense for my specific paths, the Team Tony Robbins or the Tony DISC Assessment help me and put my goals and mission into perspective.
As with assessment tools, there are many books helping to guide us. Although I have read many books, one, in particular, has been extremely beneficial for me.
That book is Marissa Peer’s Ultimate Confidence. Because I knew me! The fears and lack of confidence would hinder me forever unless I addressed them.
I am going to end right here. My next post will round out with about three more tips for a roadmap for success. I look forward to hearing your insights and comments.